Sexuality, and the hypocrisy of modern feminism

  Hello, I wanted to talk about a recent experience I had and the thoughts that followed. This post will be about male and female sexuality, objectification, and sexual fantasies.

The Trigger:

  I was having a conversation the other day with a female coworker. We were talking about dating, online dating, and more specifically the physical traits that men and women look for. While talking I mentioned that I prefer smaller women which seemed to "trigger" her.

  She began speaking in a infantile voice and saying things like "men want a small woman, so they can feel strong".
 "A tiny helpless little woman so you can feel so big and strong" she said in a condescending tone. Then she gave me a look of disgust. 

  I didn't say anything at the time. Mostly because she wouldn't have listened anyway as she prefers to talk over people. She's one of those women who constantly makes snarky remarks about the gender pay gap and how women are unfairly judged on their appearances, yet somehow becomes a delicate flower when it comes time to lift anything heavy or take out the garbage. 

  Her comments did however start me thinking about sexual attraction. 

  Why is male sexuality constantly under attack? Why is it ok for women to openly speak about things they find sexually attractive, yet males are supposed to feel ashamed for voicing theirs? 

  

 Let me start with where she made criticism:

 Many men prefer to date a woman who is small, thin, and feminine. Straight Men are generally attracted to feminine qualities. It's no secret that women prefer to date men who are taller and larger than themselves. That's not to say it is true for all women, but the majority do. If you've ever browsed Tinder or Plenty of fish as a straight man you've probably seen women list qualities a man must have in order to date them. One frequently listed requirement is height (ex: you must be 6' or taller or to be X inches taller than said female).

  It has been my experience that in person women are less picky about height vs online where they can demand more due large disparity in men vs women in online dating. Despite this, women still generally prefer a taller man are usually not afraid to vocalize this preference.

  I find it hypocritical that this is seen as ok, (and it should be) yet voicing that you prefer a woman to be shorter, thin, or even have nice tits is considered  misogynistic, rude, or even objectifying to women. It's a truth that men are largely visual creatures who prefer beautiful feminine women. 

  But why do women want a taller man? Why do women like strong men? For the same reasons men like weaker and feminine women. 

  It is because we are products of evolution and biology. We are programmed to look for certain traits through thousands of years of mating. 

  Why is it ok for women to speak openly about qualities they find sexually attractive through human evolution, while simultaneously shaming men for doing the same? 

  Women are attracted to the qualities of protector and provider, even though in modern western society most women don't need a man to fill that role. In a tribe, nomadic life, and into early civilization until modern time women and children largely depended on the men of their family to protect and provide for them. With modern protections and comforts we don't need that. You don't need a man to hunt when you can go to the local grocery store and buy a pound of ground beef. You don't need a man to protect you when we live in a mostly peaceful society with few outside threats. Where women can walk out in the open without being attacked by a rival tribe.

  Yet despite not needed men for these things, women still want a man who makes them feel safe and secure. No matter how successful women become in the workplace, they still prefer men who are even more so than themselves. 

  Men largely do not look for the same types of things in a mate.

  The main thing men want is a mate they find attractive. They don't care much about what her earning potential is. They want a feminine woman who makes them feel manly. Someone who exudes feminine energy. Someone who is caring and nurturing. The qualities a man would look for to nurse and raise his children. 

  It's not rocket science as to why women like strong tall successful men, and it shouldn't be a mystery as to why men like small feminine women. 

  I will not feel shame for liking these types of women.

This leads me to my next topic:

  I frequently hear women say things like "I need a real man". "I'm a strong independent woman and if you can't handle me you're not a strong man". 

  There's a blog post I read recently in the huffington post in which a man addresses women's questions on the topic. The women were asking why men don't like strong women. The man explains beautifully why it's not the fact that they are strong and successful, but often the tactlessness and bitchy attitude that comes along with being a strong opinionated woman.

  I'll link the article here since he does a great job on his own explaining. 

  He Said, She Said: Are Men Intimidated By Strong, Smart and Successful Women?

 The post also points out how women prefer successful and ambitious men. Yet many women make the mistake of assuming that men are attracted to the same things that they are.
  I am a strong successful woman, but no men like me, why? 

  It doesn't matter if you are a career driven successful woman. Men do enjoy a smart woman. Men do appreciate a strong woman, and some find it sexy. But ultimately having a good job is not what will bring him to want to date you or have sex with you

Lastly:

  I'd like to take a step back to talking about physical traits.
  When I was speaking with my co-worker about height in relation physical attraction, it reminded me of the frequently discussed topic of objectification that feminists adore.

  If we look at sexuality logically and realistically without looking through the lens of PC culture or feminism, we realize that men and women are both guilty of objectification.While doing some searching online about the topic, I was surprised to see many feminists admit that women are also guilty of objectifying men. However they are vehemently adamant that men do it more often.
  I think that since visual attraction is crucially important to male sexuality it's no wonder men are constantly targeted through ads and other means to stimulate that part of our minds. It doesn't mean that men don't care about other qualities in women. But we are first and foremost attracted by physical beauty. This is a hard fact of life for many overweight man-bashing feminists who believe they are beautiful at every size. 

 Sex sells and men are doing all the buying. We idolize and worship the female form. It's no wonder advertisers use it to sell us crap.

  When feminists talk about objectification the subject of sexual fantasy is also usually mentioned. 

  Going back to all my previous points, it should be obvious why women fantasize about men like Christian Grey or cut men with washboard abs in cheesy romance porn novels.They dream about a man taking charge of their life with seven zeros in his bank account so he can usher them around the world to make love in exotic places. 

  So what are male fantasies? They often involve being hero. Being powerful. Men fantasize about saving the damsel, and about her being uncontrollably attracted to him. Save the day, get the girl. We see this often in video games and movies, which are both under attack by SJWs and feminists. The woman is a prize, not because she is an object, but because we worship women so much. I say it's a product of hypergamy.
  We are so quick to rush into dangerous situations or fall on our sword in a virtual world just to save one woman. We would trade her life for the thousands of lives of virtual men, and in the end consummate our love for her.
  And somehow this male fantasy of self sacrifice and heroism is seen as evil or misogynistic. The idea a man would want to save a woman is sexist and dangerous!

  But what is so dangerous about male sexuality and male energy that we need to constantly dismantle and destroy it?

  And isn't it ironic that the same traits of these game characters, movie heros, and other men being demonized posses the exact alpha male bad boy traits that women sexually fantasize and lust after? 

  

Cheers,

Pioneering man.